Am I An Emotional Eater?

During these times of living in quarantine, the isolation and worry has anxiety and stress at an all-time high. Many who may not typically suffer with disordered eating patterns are finding that they are turning to food (amongst other things) to release their stress and numb out the variety of uncomfortable feelings they are encountering daily. This can create a negative and damaging pattern of emotional and stress eating as a coping skill for anxiety, stress, and any uncomfortable emotions. If the pattern is left unattended it can turn into more serious disordered eating patterns and significant struggles related to health and wellbeing in mind and body.

If you are unsure if you are an emotional eater, you can take the following quiz to assess how far you may have slipped into a pattern of stress and emotional eating. 

Am I an Emotional Eater?

1.    Do you find that you feel overly full or “stuffed” after meals?

2.    Do you find yourself snacking throughout the day even if you are not feeling hungry?

3.    Do you find yourself thinking about food many times throughout the day?

4.    Do you eat/snack at night after dinner?

5.    Do you hide your food from others?

6.    Do you struggle with unwanted weight gain/weight fluctuations? 

7.    Have you tried multiple diets, supplements, workout routines with some success of weight loss only to regain the majority of the weight?

8.    Do you feel as though you live your life in a state of rushing and trying to stay busy most of the time?

9.    Do you feel as though your body and your health are suffering due to your eating and stress? 

10. Do you have an outlet or way of coping with your stress and emotions that you use consistently, such as journaling, attending therapy, a creative outlet, a hobby, a meditation or mindfulness practice, moving your body regularly, someone to talk to that you trust…?

11. Do you practice self-care regularly? This means engaging regularly in intentional relaxation and things that you find enjoyable for example: mindfulness, yoga, exercise, massage, walking, deep breathing, social time with friends regularly, taking self-enrichment classes, spiritual connection, reading for fun, create art/music, listen to music, spending time in nature…?

Scoring:

• Give yourself 1 point each for a “Yes” on Questions 1-9

• Give yourself 1 point each for a “No” on Questions 10 & 11

• If your score is a 9 or higher you are most likely an emotional eater and it may be indicative of deeper concerns in relation to your relationship with food.

• If your score is a 4-8 you most likely turn to food for comfort and release of emotional and physical stress and are at risk of it becoming more disordered.

• If your score is 2-3 you may turn to food at times, but you most likely have some other outlets for your emotions as well and now is a good time to make choices about how to cope more effectively with the current stressors you are experiencing.

• If your score is a 0 or 1 you most likely are not an emotional/stress eater.

If you are feeling overwhelmed by your response, it’s ok, awareness is always the first step to creating meaningful change in your life. Often when you have been struggling with emotional or stress eating for some time, you don’t recognize the level of stress you experience. This is because you’ve been using food to not have to experience the depths of your emotions and stress, however if you are now becoming more aware, you may recognize the patterns more extensively.

When you have been numbing out the stress and uncomfortable emotions, it’s a process to begin to separate out your food choices from your emotions and there is a lot you can do to begin to empower yourself to break free from emotional and stress eating patterns.

If you are ready for another approach and have no idea of where to begin, you might begin by reading this blog: I Just Discovered I’m Emotional Eater, Now What? Once you are aware of the pattern you can start by tapping into your self-care and coping skills. Begin to discover what nourishes you that is not food. Connect with the inner workings of your emotional world and shift your relationship to them. Begin to manage your stress slowly and effectively.

Know that there is hope for healing and awareness is always the first step. If you need some support through the change process, I have written many blogs on the topic. This one is an overview of the 10-Steps to Create a Life You Love that may be a helpful place to begin (all 10 are written about in-depth if this one piques your interest!) I encourage you to read what resonates with you and begin to implement any suggestions that feel right for you.

I offer other resources on my resources page related to mindfulness and nutrition, you can check those out here and here. You can check out my book as a self-help guide, Wholistic Food Therapy: A Mindful Approach to Making Peace with Food, if you are interested, you can find it HERE.  I also offer individual coaching packages to those who prefer a one-on-one approach.

Another resource is my signature online program, Freedom From Emotional Eating. It is a 10-module online course designed to help you break free from emotional and stress eating patterns by addressing the struggle from the deepest roots. This is an in-depth, self-paced and mindfulness centered approach to make peace with food. It is currently significantly discounted to help those who may need extra support during these quarantined, isolating times. Now is the time to heal, to move forward and create the relationship with food and with yourself that you desire.

No matter what resources you access, I hope that you find the support you need during these challenging times. Opening yourself to change, growth and healing is life changing and empowering. That is what we all need during these challenging times. I hope this finds you safe and healthy. Be well!

How to Survive the Holidays: A Mindful Eating Guide

So the holiday season is in full force, did it sneak up on you too?! When it comes to the holidays, do you feel overwhelmed when it comes to surviving them all? Do you worry about overeating, over spending and in general just over doing it all? If so, you are not alone. This time of year, with the shorter daylight hours and brisk temperatures, it’s natural to want to do less and relax more. However, the nature of this season often gets us out and about, leaving us over tired and over stressed. When this happens, we often over-do-it with sugar, caffeine and possibly the alcohol.

Some of the primary challenges when it comes to over-doing-it during the holidays are, well, the big holiday meals, alcohol, candy dishes and sweet treats everywhere, food as gifts, cocktail parties… That’s a lot of challenges. If you already struggle with emotional and stress eating, the holidays are often too overpowering with that LONG list of challenges to stay in a mindset of health and wellbeing.

Here are some helpful suggestions to help survive each of these scenarios with a mindful eating approach to the holiday-all-the-things-food-season.

BIG HOLIDAY MEALS

Let’s start with the big holiday meals. Here are some suggestions to remain mindful and comfortable throughout each meal:

·      Start with vegetables—fill your plate with at least 50% colorful veggies.

·      Add proteins to your plate—when you eat protein and fiber (from the veggies) together it will create a feeling of satiation more quickly and stay with you longer.

·      Don’t overload your plate—if you want to eat more after your first serving, notice if you are truly hungry (mindful & intuitive eating practice) and if not, ask yourself if you can have the food you’d still like to eat as leftovers another time to receive that satisfaction later.

·      Don’t restrict what you choose to eat—on the other side of overloading is not letting yourself eat something you really want; this will only lead to cravings and resentful feelings of deprivation. Try a little of everything you want and TASTE it, enjoy it, eat it mindfully.

·      Eat dessert if you want it and if you aren’t stuffed but if you are full, don’t. Have a statement prepared for the “food pushers” in your life if you are choosing to not eat dessert (or anything else at the meal!) An example could be, “That looks amazing, can I take some to go so I can eat it when I’m not full and I can actually enjoy it.” If you do want dessert, eat it and do so mindfully.

ALCOHOL

So let’s be clear, alcohol is not a health food and if you struggle with over doing it with alcohol, it’s best to avoid it altogether. If you don’t have a problem with alcohol but tend to over-indulge during the holidays, here are my suggestions to remain more mindful in relation to your alcohol consumption:

·      Set a mental limit for yourself. Do this before you go to a cocktail party or holiday meal, know (and remember!) your set desired limits and stick to it.

·      Be sure you are not using alcohol as a coping skill. If cocktail parties or big get togethers create feelings of anxiety, discomfort or tension, you might end up over doing it to cope with those feelings. Make sure you check in with your emotions and manage them before hitting the alcohol.

·      Start any party or meal with water and be sure to stay hydrated

·      Have a glass of water between drinks

·      Choose a creative “mocktail” like seltzer, pomegranate juice and lime, no one needs to know there’s no booze!

·      Check in with your inner strength monitor to assess your “tipsy level” from time to time! You are way more likely to regret over-doing-it to under doing it!

CANDY DISHES

You know how during the holidays there are candy dishes seemingly everywhere? Here are some suggestions to help manage the dreaded candy dishes:

·      Give yourself a “sugar quota” for the day—maybe it’s 1-3 pieces of candy. Pay attention and be sure to stay in mindful eating-mode when you do enjoy a piece, when you eat it, savor it!

·      Be intentional about your choices. Do you even like those red and green M&M’s? Maybe so, but if they aren’t your fav, leave them in the dish.

·      Avoid the candy dishes. If you struggle with over-doing-it with sugar, it’s best to avoid the candy dishes and make intentional choices about what sweets you will have this season.

·      Avoid the mindless eating trap. With all of the candy around it can become easy to mindlessly have a few pieces here and there and not really enjoy and savor them.

FOOD AS GIFTS

Another big food challenge during the holidays is being given food as a gift. Here are some suggestions for dealing with this one:

·      Mange your feelings of guilt if you choose not to eat the food you are gifted. Guilt is appropriate if you have actually done something wrong, it is our conscience in action. However, if someone gives you a box of candy and you know it will be painful for you to just try one piece and you end up eating the entire box all at once, it’s best not to put yourself in a position you might feel upset about later.

·      Take the food gifts to work and share with others.

·      Take the food gifts to a holiday gathering.

·      Determine if you even like the food, then decide if it’s what you truly want to eat.

·      Save a portion of the food and give the rest away.

·      Create a sugar quota for yourself for the day and stick to it. If you’ve hit your quota, remember, you can always try something the next day.

COCKTAIL PARTIES

Cocktail parties are a challenge during the holidays. They tend have a lot of snacks and of course drinks—and they may come with a side of awkwardness. Usually they are not offering a full meal so it can be tough not to over-do-it. Here are some suggestions to manage cocktail parties with ease:

·      Give yourself a drink limit (review alcohol above!) and space them out well throughout the party. This is a mindset you create before even walking in the door.

·      Start with one drink. Then switch to water or a “mocktail” in the same glass.

·      Be aware of sugar content in any fancy mixed drinks.

·      Eat something healthy before you go so you are not hungry when you arrive.

·      Focus on the veggie options first with the available snacks.

·      Stay mindful as you do eat so you don’t graze. Sometimes when nervous we might nibble mindlessly.

A few last tips to help reduce incidents of stress and emotional eating holiday season:

·      Try to stick to meal planning and preparation throughout the season. It’s super tempting and easy to order take out or go out when you are feeling over-run during this season. This can add up in dollars and unhealthy meals.

·      Focus on vegetables and fruits. You may still choose to indulge in other holiday treats, just be sure to be well nourished along the way!

·      Make slow cooker meals that are ready to go and easy to freeze so you can have leftovers available.

·      Practice mindful eating at least one meal per day every day.

·      Use the emotional cravings protocol any time you need it.

I’ll leave you with this last reminder of the process of mindful eating so you can stay empowered, mindful and content with your choices this holiday season!

Mindful Eating is…

·      Eating without distraction.

·      Being in tune with what you are eating and your body, noticing how what you eat makes you feel.

·      Focusing on your senses, especially smelling and tasting.

·      Savoring and enjoying your food.

·      Staying tuned into to your hunger and full cues, eating when you are hungry, stopping when you are full.

·      Eating in a relaxed, calm and neutral emotional state.

·      Deriving pleasure from eating without judgment.

I hope you have a happy and healthy holiday season!

Good Mood Food (Delicious Recipe Included!)

Have you ever heard the sayings “good food, good mood” or “junk food, junk mood?” These are not just cute catch phrases; they are indeed true!

The food you eat literally makes up your cells, tissues and organs and if you are taking in nutrient dense, whole, healthy foods you are creating a foundation for the building blocks of healthy cells, tissues and organs. If you feel that you have not been nourishing your body like it might prefer to be nourished, no need to panic. Luckily, our bodies are amazing and usually respond super well to healing when given half a chance. So today, I’ll try to inspire you to eat well in order to feel well, in body and mind. Consider foods you can add that create these positive feelings, not what you have to restrict or take away.

There is a lot of disconnect in modern healthcare. One practitioner might say that food does not impact health or wellbeing mentally or physically, and yet there is a ton of research out there demonstrates that it does—in a seriously significant and tremendously impactful way.

The nutrients we take in through our food (and possibly supplements) are responsible for the development and flow of hormones, neurotransmitters, and our organs. Doesn’t that make it only logical that when we take in mostly whole, healthy foods that we will have a mostly whole, healthy body and mind?

Refined grains, sugars and artificial colors and flavors have been shown to have a negative impact on your blood sugar levels, health of your cells and tissues which can increase anxiety and cause a negative mood. When you eat, your body anticipates that its nourishment needs will be met through the foods you eat. When your body does not get the nutrients that it needs to create healthy cells, tissues and organs it may begin a cycle of cravings to attempt to get what it needs or to return to balance.

You have the power—on a daily basis—to choose your health over what’s convenient, what’s cheap and what may seem to have tasty “flavor.” When you cleanse your palate from the refined foods, artificial sugars and flavors, they no longer really taste quite so good! When you readjust your taste buds to natural sweeteners that live in fresh fruit and whole foods, those other sweets often taste way too sweet. One of my most favorite moments as a wholistic food therapist was when I had someone agree to stop diet soda for two weeks and switch to water for a variety of health reasons. When she tasted the diet drink after two weeks, she was revolted by how terrible it tasted to her after this simple shift!

Many of those I work with to create more balance in mind and body notice an improvement in their energy levels, mood and sleep—which are always welcomed improvement and shifts within their lives. They also notice that they get fewer colds and other illnesses throughout the year! They notice that they have more inner strength (because they are listening to their bodies and feel strong and empowered by their choices) and they even report improved skin and a shift into a more positive body image (and not just because of any weight loss, but because they are treating their body with more respect through their choices!) These all occur incidentally on the journey towards improved mental and physical welling. By making small changes over time (that do not have to be radical or restrictive) in what they choose to eat, they get a huge payoff in the long run.

One positive shift often encourages another. Most people find that when they are eating better, they feel better mentally and physically and their energy improves making it more desirable to move their bodies, to spend more time engaged socially and enjoying hobbies and things that bring fulfillment. Just by intending to improve mood through food has a positive domino effect into all other areas of wellbeing!

Below are some nutrients required for mental wellbeing with whole food sources you can eat to obtain these nutrients. When possible, choose local, organic and closest to the land sources you can find. Local farmer’s markets and health food stores are a great place to shop for staples that you love!

When I first work with people, I do not encourage any reduction or restriction in these changes. I always begin by focusing on what to add that supplies the body with nutrients and creates the positive desired changes over time. Once you continue to add in the good stuff, often there is not so much room for the not-so-good-for-you stuff. Once you feel better, you most likely will want to continue to make choices that help to maintain this because we all know, it feels good to feel good!

Choose one area to start, one food to add and once you find that you are enjoying it, in a week or so, add another. Let me know what foods you choose, I’d love to hear!

Nutrients + Food Sources to Improve Your Food + Mood 

Folic Acid: Found in leafy greens and cruciferous veggies (kale, broccoli, arugula, spinach, swiss chard…) asparagus, citrus fruits, beans, peas, lentils, okra, brussel sprouts, nuts and seed, beets, celery, carrots and squash, eggs, avocado

B-6: Whole grains, herbs, spices, pistachios, garlic, liver, tuna, salmon, cod, sunflower and sesame seeds

B-12: Grass-fed beef, liver and chicken, fish such as trout, salmon, tuna and clams, sardines, yogurt, cheese, eggs

Omega 3’s or Essential fatty acids: Fish such as Mackerel, Sardines, Anchovy, Salmon, Trout, Herring, Kippers, Tuna, Ground Flax seeds, Pumpkin seeds, Chia seeds, Hemp seeds, Walnuts (they even look like a brain!)

Vitamin C: Berries, red peppers, black currants, hot chili peppers, guavas, fresh herbs, dark leafy greens, kiwis, papayas

Tryptophan: Chicken, turkey, cheese, tuna, tofu, eggs, nuts, seeds, bananas, egg yolks

Vitamin K: Leafy greens such as broccoli, spinach, kale, collards, chard, brussels sprouts

Protein: Meat, seafood, dairy, beans, whole grains, nuts and seeds

More Brain Foods: Blueberries, Tomatoes, Sage, Olive oil, Dark Chocolate (Yes!), Garlic, Fermented foods such as Kefir, yogurt, fermented vegetables, kombucha

Water: And lastly, stay hydrated! When we are dehydrated the brain tissue actually shrinks. Several studies have shown that dehydration can affect cognitive function. It can also impair short-term memory, focus and decision making. This will help you stay healthy mentally and emotionally!

Brain Power Smoothie Recipe:

1 cup fresh or frozen blueberries (you may want to add ice if using fresh)

1/2 banana

1 teaspoon powdered dark chocolate or raw cacao powder

1 tablespoon ground flax seed

1-2 cups loosely pack fresh leafy green such as spinach, chard and kale

1 cup plain unsweetened coconut milk (or kefir) 

Blend and enjoy!