Spring Cleaning for Emotional Eating

 
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During this time of the year, you might spend some extra time cleaning out your home. Clearing out the cobwebs and dust bunnies that have collected in the corners over the winter, changing out clothing for the new season and getting rid of old stuff that might be cluttering your space and fogging your mind. This process requires a lot of effort and when it is completed it feels so refreshing. After a good spring cleaning you feel lighter, calmer, and accomplished don’t you? I know I love a clean and clutter free space, I just don’t always love doing the work it takes to get there!

While you might spend this time cleaning your physical space, do you ever think about spring cleaning your pantry, fridge, habits and emotions? Spring is a time of renewal and hope. With more light, energy, nature and bright colors all around, spring provides inspiration. If you have become bogged down by emotional and stress eating and these habits feel frustrating, NOW is the time to clear it all out.

When you consider spring cleaning for emotional eating, it’s helpful to work in the direction that makes the most sense for you. You might begin from clearing your pantry + fridge to then clearing your habits and emotions. However, you might feel more comfortable working from the other way around, where you clear out emotions + habits and then shift to kitchen. No matter which direction suits you the best, the outcome will definitely be the same. Through this process of spring cleaning for emotional eating, you can refresh and renew your relationship with food—and with yourself.

Spring Cleaning the Pantry + Fridge

While it might make more sense for you to work from the other direction, l will start with clearing out the pantry and fridge first. When you spring clean there is a process of letting go of things that no longer serve you, releasing built up grime, dust and dirt and a creation of positive feelings with the action you are taking. The same is true as you clean and clear your pantry and fridge.

When starting, you want to align with your goal and then determine if the items in your fridge and pantry serve you and your goals. What do you want? How do you want to feel? Do the foods currently in your fridge and pantry provide that outcome? If yes, take inventory and plan when you will use them. Get creative, cook new dishes, refresh old ones, have fun with it. If no, these items don’t align with your goals and how you want to feel, you can choose to donate them or give them to a neighbor or friend. It’s a helpful process that will leave you feeling empowered and motivated to care for yourself. After the clearing process, be sure to organize and clean them out so it feels calming to open and access your fridge and pantry.

During this clearing process, notice what foods might be “trigger” foods. Trigger foods are ones that it’s difficult to stop eating once you start or ones that you crave to temporarily suppress stress and uncomfortable emotions. These foods are not bad foods or good foods, they just may not serve you and it’s helpful to evaluate if having them in your space helps move you in the direction of your goals. If they don’t, you don’t have to keep them.

Spring Cleaning Habits + Emotions

Now let’s dive into spring cleaning for your habits and emotions. This process is a bit less straight forward. You can’t just give or throw away your habits and emotions so easily. You can start this process of spring cleaning emotional eating through self-reflection. Be honest with yourself about how often you are using food to suppress stress and emotions, how often you turn to food for comfort. Be curious about how that makes you feel about yourself. Become aware of how any habits and patterns of stress and emotional eating have created a rift in your relationship with yourself and your body.

Once you can deeply reflect and develop self-awareness, you can begin to clear out the habits and develop healthier ways to cope with your stress and emotions. To change a habit you need to replace it with a new, healthier, more desired habit. If you have been feeling stressed during the quarantine or if you struggled with any winter blues, you might have developed a habit of soothing with food in the evenings, when feeling down, lonely or bored, among other emotions. For example, maybe you started eating something after dinner that comforts you and releases your stress regardless of whether or not you were still hungry. There may be some pondering about wanting to stop this habit or maybe even some guilt for having it, however, it feels too difficult to break.

You want to consider spring cleaning this habit first by determining what else could you do in the evenings to soothe your mind and body that do not include the comfort foods? How do you want to feel? Can you practice assessing your hunger levels and committing to only eating if you truly feel hungry? Can you journal to connect with why this habit feels so good and so bad at the same time? You want to dive into self-awareness and self-reflection and create a plan to shift this habit into something more desirable and something that can still soothe you without food.

Changing a habit takes time and constant self-reflection and self-awareness. I recently wrote 10 blogs about creating a life that you love, you can review the overview here. You can go back and check out each of the steps in depth on the blog for support with this challenging change process. While awareness is the first step, you have to create action steps and a formulate a plan to actually follow through.

When you are spring cleaning any habits that no longer serve you, awareness that the habit has become problematic is the first step and then deciding what you could do and aligning with a sense of what you truly want is the next. Then you, of course, need to have a plan for how you are going to make it happen. Following through, consistency and believing in yourself are super important when it comes to creating the change you desire.

Commit to yourself to spring clean just one habit. Be sure to give yourself time to reflect in order to ensure that you make it happen.

As you begin to shift your habit, you may notice more emotions and stress to become present when you are no longer soothing them with food. This is where journaling is a great place to start when working to spring clean your emotions. Giving yourself time and space to recognize, sit with, understand, process and release your emotions is essential. Journaling offers you a specific safe place to do this.

Anytime you experience a food craving is a great time to pull out your journal and get in touch with the craving. This way you can determine if it’s an emotional craving or more general craving. Go through the Pause, Reflect, Release process where you first pause and give yourself space away from the craving. Then reflect where you can explore and understand the craving and then attempt to release the craving. If is an emotional craving, you will choose a coping tool to help manage or release the emotion. If it is a general craving, you might choose to eat the food, however you want to be sure do so mindfully. Allow yourself to savor and enjoy your food.

Breath work, movement, and talking are additional helpful tools to cleanse and clear in mind and body. No matter what you do to begin to spring clean your stress and emotional eating patterns, start somewhere and believe in yourself and your ability to create the change you desire.

The Power of Visualization

 
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Your mind is your most powerful tool for healing. When you picture something in your mind, it is perceived as possible and the nervous system responds accordingly. If you are still in quarantine, this can be a useful technique to add that will help support the process of finding inner balance, inner calm and inner peace.

Visualization is a technique that is used to improve wellbeing, performance, follow through and outcomes. When you rehearse something in your mind, visualize yourself doing it, you are more likely to make it happen. Visualizing helps bring what you can imagine in your mind come into fruition.

When you visualize something in your mind’s eye you can cultivate any inner experience. When you are dealing with stress, anxiety, uncertainty and any immobilizing feelings such as helplessness, hopelessness or fear, you are essentially imagining negative outcomes. If you shift this to positivity, hopefulness, and empowerment, you can create a whole different outcome and a far more peaceful state of being.

When managing stress there are some very helpful visualization techniques you can use to release the discomfort of stress and bring on a feeling of inner peace. Releasing negative, uncomfortable, untrue and non-useful thoughts can be a helpful visualization to practice to support the process of letting these thoughts go.

Visualization to Release Thoughts and Calm Your Mind

Here a few visualizations you can use to imagine your thoughts releasing from your mind:

  • –  Picture yourself sitting under a tree. Imagine that your thoughts (worries, stressors…) are on the leaves floating down from the tree, releasing the thoughts and letting them go.

  • –  Picture yourself lying down in your favorite space in nature, imagine releasing your thoughts to the clouds and watch them floating away, letting the thoughts go.

  • –  Picture a hallway with doors, imagine that your thoughts are coming in through one door and leaving through another, letting the thoughts go.

  • –  Imagine a revolving door, picture your thoughts coming in and then leaving through the door.

  • –  Picture yourself seated on the banks of a river, imagine a basket of leaves beside you, anytime you are distracted by a thought, take a leaf out of the basket, write the word thought onto the leaf, place the leaf into the river and watch it float away.

You can set a timer for any amount of time, even 1-5 minutes can make a big difference. Practice the visualization related to releasing your thoughts to help let them go. Notice the impact.

Visualization for Productivity

If you are struggling to get the things done in your day that you’d like to do, you can use visualization to improve your chances to get stuff done. First, write out your plan for your day. Then, spend 3-5 full, deep breaths holding the image of getting each item on your list completed.

Notice any resistance or struggle. If there is a strong resistance, be curious about why it is there. Keep practicing until you can picture yourself completing the item on your list without resistance or make any adjustments to your schedule as necessary. Reflect on this process and notice the impact on your productivity, motivation and ability to follow through.

Visualization for Healing

The final visualization technique I will include here supports healing stress and anxiety in mind and body. This visualization offers an ability to feel supported, calm, safe and content.

Begin by resting comfortably. Imagine a small sphere of light resting at the center of your chest. This can be a soft, golden light, or it can take on any color that is soothing, comforting or healing to you. With each inhale, imaging that the light is expanding throughout your body, with each exhale allow the light to return to your heart center. Continue with this deep breathing until you can visualize the light expanding all the way around your whole physical body. Once you can visualize that you are resting in this sphere of light, continue to breathe slowly and deeply, leaving the light in this expanded state all around you.

Picture yourself resting in this light space. Picture yourself breathing in the light, filling your body with soothing, calming and healing energy. Allow yourself to feel safe, calm and supported as you are resting within this light space.

After 5-20 minutes, begin to imagine the light slowly contracting with each exhale. Continue with this visualization until it returns to a single point at your heart center. Now imagine in your mind’s eye your light moving deep within your heart space. Allow all that remains of your light deep within your heart space and picture it as a sparkling gem. Know that you can repeat this visualization of your light any time you need to, for healing, to help you feel safe, calm, supported and full of vitality.

No matter how you begin to use visualization, know that you hold the power within to shift your mood state, your thoughts, your nervous system and your own daily outcomes. What visualization technique will you try today?

How to Live With Intention During the Quarantine and Beyond

 
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Living with intention is one of the most valuable ways to create a life that you love. When it comes to self-leadership in these uncertain times, it can feel difficult to know what to do to stay motivated and to continue to move forward. When you are in a state of stress and anxiety your thinking becomes more scattered as energy is diverted towards more primitive functions to offer you an opportunity to stay and feel safe. This is why it is so important to calm and balance your nervous system in order to move forward in your life with ease and grace—no matter what the circumstances of life present (like a 2 month quarantine…).

Leading yourself may already be challenging enough without the present state of the world. Staying in a space of self-awareness, self-reflection and maintaining motivation and inspiration to move forward are difficult feats on a good day. Put a dose of uncertainty and the major stressors that we are all facing at this time on top of your everyday challenges and you might feel as though you’ve become stagnant, defeated, or worse, you might be backsliding. This is a normal part of the change process and it is times like these that we have the ability to build resilience and grow.

One way to live with intention is to create opportunities to choose how you want to feel. You might feel like you are stuck with whatever emotion you are experiencing in the moment during these times. You might feel like you don’t have a choice or option and you can either just push through, dwell in it, or avoid it through emotional repression. This does not have to be the case. While you want to assess and understand whatever emotion you may be experiencing, that does not mean you are stuck with it and that you don’t have the power within yourself to manage it more effectively. Ultimately, you get to choose how you want to feel and always could choose another emotion.

Imagine you wake up and immediately feel anxious, fearful and uncertain. Then you find yourself moving through your day with stress hormones flooding your system, feeling more and more stressed out. Living with intention allows you to choose in the moment a new way to experience the present moment. Here are the steps to intentionally create a new emotional experience, a new way to choose to live within your present moment.

1.    Acknowledge and name the emotion you are experiencing.

2.    Ask if this is a true or useful experience of the present moment? Be curious about the message this emotion has for you.

3.    Use a coping skill to understand and manage the emotion.

4.    Ask yourself: How do I want to feel today?

5.    Ask yourself: What 3 things can I do to help myself create this/these feeling(s)?

6.    Set the intention to use these action steps to help create this internal emotional/feeling experience within you.

7.    Receive self or external accountability. For self-accountability, write down when you are going to take these actions to help create these feelings within. Put reminders on your phone or use sticky notes where you will see them. Reflect at the end of the day on how these actions allowed you feel. For external accountability, tell someone who supports you what your intentions are for the day and ask for support, reminders or anything else that will allow this person to give you the inspiration you need to move forward and take action.

8.    Reflect on your process. How did it go? Was it effective? What will you do tomorrow to ensure that you set up your day in a way that allows you to feel how you want to feel?

Here is an example: 

1.    Acknowledge and name the emotion. Presently I feel anxious and stressed.

2.    Is this a true representation of the present moment, is it useful right now? No. The message of my anxiety is feeling overwhelmed and uncertain. I acknowledge that these feelings are related to fear based thoughts.

3.    Coping skill I can use: deep breathing and a body scan to calm my nervous system and relax my body.

4.    How do I want to feel? Strong, focused and hopeful.

5.    Actions I can to take to create these feelings: Strong: exercise and stay mentally strong by addressing any anxiety with thought examination technique. Focused: get 3 work tasks completed, cook a nourishing meal for dinner and spend time reading. Hopeful: use my gratitude journal, focus on what is going well and reflect on the positives of my day.

6.    Set the intention to take these action steps: Today I set the intention to feel strong, focused and hopeful..

7.    I will use self-accountability by writing specifically in my planner when I will complete these actions in order to ensure that I follow through and picture myself taking these actions.

8.    How did it go? When I completed each of the actions and reconnected with my intentions for the day I increased those feelings within and created the experience within that I desired. This also improved my feelings of being hopeful and feeling strong and capable. I feel more mentally balanced and calm.

Often, we know what to do, but unfortunately it can be challenging to follow through. Making ourselves a priority can be tough. Feeling anxious, fearful and uncertain makes us feel out of control. These feelings create internal confusion and a sense of being overwhelmed and make it more challenging to think clearly and to focus. That’s why this process is so valuable to work through every single day.

We are all just trying to do the best we can with what we have. If it feels like the best you can has not been working out well, that is where you can search for the accountability you need, either from within or externally. Each time you follow through with setting your intentions and following the actions needed to create the way you want to feel, you will improve your self-esteem. The more that you value yourself and feel good about yourself the more you will build inner inspiration and motivation to continue moving forward. So now is the time to get started! What is your intention for the rest of your day today? How do you want to feel?